violated

What do you do when do when you feel someone emotionally violated you? We all feel it from time to time, we all make other people feel this way and yet there seem to be few people that you can work this emotion out with. Few people really want to work past the anger and the upset that comes with feeling violated and yet it can be one of the key steps to moving on from the incident. A good friend will work through this feeling with you until you both feel comfortable and safe in the relationship again. Other people will leave you fending for yourself, you will find the people around that help you pick up the pieces and start to feel whole again. Yet sometime you are still left wondering how someone who said they were trust worthy and caring could leave you feeling devastated by them.
I am a firm believer in expressing when you feel this or any type of emotion that can be worked through. I know that sometimes I will be rejected and sometimes I will have to wait for the person to come around and be ready to work with me to heal the relationship. But other times I wonder if it is worth waiting for, what if the person is a repeat offender. And what if the person appears to be a repeat offender not only with you but with other people as well. As you sit there and feel like you were just another sucker in their messed up life, how do you look past the pattern that you added to and start to look into your own healing. Sometimes it seems impossible and like the only thing to do is sever all ties. This is probably better for all of the aforementioned people that will help pick you up and put you back together and yet it is so tough to let go of the relationship without closer. I think you have to start to figure out how to create closer by yourself and frequently let that person go, if they were really interested they would join the group of people who would like to help you heal. This doesn't mean that you will not forgive them at some point but until you have healed you cannot afford to think about them contributing to your life. And frequently can not let them in even for a mundane conversation until you are whole again.